Home Birth, Breech Babies & Bear

October 14, 2010 in Infant & Labor  

Home Birth, Breech Babies & Bear

My buddy Chasen (who also goes by Chase) is a brand new dad, and they had a surprising labor story. In this video we hear about how his little guy was breech, how they had to change from a home-birth birthplan to a hospital c-section, and how to squirt a little blood on your woman’s face… her own blood.

I let this video go a bit long because it’s really a great story. Enjoy! And let us know your breech and/or home-birth and/or bloody wife face story, tip or trick in the comments!

We have some more labor posts if you’re into that sort of thing. As always please comment and let us hear your own stories and tricks!

Please Comment & Add Your Voice!

Nick Maestas October 14, 2010 at 9:18 am

We went through 19 hours of labor before we realized that Jack’s massive head was not going to go through J-bone’s va-jay-jay (apparently that’s my fault-I am ill-equipped to make anything stretch down there. heyoooo) so we went in for a c-section. All was well, they began cutting with a laser and J-bone asks (do you smell popcorn?) I said “no honey-that’s your burning flesh.” Naaaaasty! I can’t eat popcorn now without thinking of burning uterus.

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Chase October 14, 2010 at 9:26 am

HEYooooooh! lol.sixinchstrangler

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Joy Eggerichs October 14, 2010 at 11:31 am

I love it! Chase & Chase storytelling time should become a staple. I am confused as to why Chasen didn’t explain that Bear’s real name is actually Terry. Chasen?

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Courtney October 14, 2010 at 11:32 am

“Balls I see Balls!” – that was awesome.

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Mellisa October 14, 2010 at 2:26 pm

Um…. Chasen? Why do you look at your crotch every time you mention Lisa’s face? Where were you standing?

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kyle October 14, 2010 at 2:31 pm

i love how i can watch two friends of mine that are fruitcakes talk about babies!

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Andy October 14, 2010 at 3:45 pm

Another great video… And, yes Chase. You are drinking the whole time.

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Walt October 14, 2010 at 5:58 pm

My wife and I decided on waiting until the birth to learn the sex of the baby. Like mentioned in the video, we got some pretty funky neutral clothes. While my wife and I were fine not knowing, it was killing friends and family. Everyone kept telling us they didn’t know what to get.

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Lesley October 14, 2010 at 6:55 pm

Love this video. Wish I had something funny/witty to say about it but I’ll leave that up to the rest of you guys. Nice site, Chase!

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Chasen October 19, 2010 at 8:45 am

Joy: My son is not and does not sound like a pterodactyl and therefore his name is not Terry. No offense to anyone named Terry but Bear’s eat Terrys!!

Mellisa: Good question. Funny to realize that when I watched the clip again. During the process Lisa was laying on the operating table and when I would stand for a better view or to make the call on the sex of the baby it turns out Lisa’s head was right around my crotch, hence looking down during the video!!

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Lisa December 26, 2010 at 2:03 am

Mothers over fathers
This I didn’t think till I was a mother myself but mothers are much more dedicated, unconditional and loyal than fathers.
Mothers feel guilt if they go to the hairdresser for an hour and their baby was left with someone else. Fathers can go play golf for hours and feel nothing.
Mother’s wont shop for clothes for themselves for years so their babies can have the best birthday party, or cake or both with nice presents. Fathers just don’t get that.
Fathers are selfish they prioritize what it is better for them, what is that gives them pleasure before anyone else happiness.
Mothers are always there, when you are sick, when you have a broken heart, when you are laughing out loud, when you have a boo boo when you are watching tv, when you are playing sport. They are always there to feed you, to put you to sleep to calm you down to make you warm, to love you, they always always care for you no matter what !
And im sure that there are exceptions to this rule and they are some amazing father but im also sure they are the minority.
Now I am a mother I appreciate my mother in a whole new light!
I am sorry if I am offending anyone out there but look inside yourself and tell me I am wrong, cause I am certain I am not.
Im not pointing the finger, maybe the macho society we all grew up in are, and suddlenly all man are like that, rubbish, I can’t take this anymore!!
Step up, we carried this baby, we breasted, I did for 13 months, we had sleepless nights (2 years of them) and what did you do, watch football on the tv while “watching the baby” Please !

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Joy Eggerichs December 26, 2010 at 10:14 am

Lisa,

I wouldn’t normally reply to a comment like this, but seeing how it came through on my email this morning and the fact that I know and admire the two men in the above video as my friends and excellent fathers, I felt I must chime in…

You say that you are “not pointing the finger…” but I can’t see how anyone would read what you wrote and not sense some finger pointing happening.

Sure there are bad fathers, but there are also bad mothers. Your generalizations are quite discouraging to me. I agree with what you said about a majority of mothers, but to say you know how men feel and act in opposition to what mothers do seems to be based on your own lens and experience.

It also seems very unkind.

If you have had a bad experience with your own father or husband, then I am truly sorry…but my hope is that as men and women we can start believing in one another more. Just because all men don’t parent the way you parent and think about their children in the way that you want them to, does not mean that all men are bad parents.

Trust me, if a man had made a comment about women to the degree as you have about men, I would respond too. I feel strongly that we need to shift the way we speak about and believe in one another if we are ever going to make healthy partnerships as mothers and fathers.

Do you ever think that some men have shifted into “not watching the baby” because when they have tried some women have told them they are doing it wrong?

If I was a man and I kept hearing over and over that I didn’t do things right, would that motivate me to get involved…or would I just be more comfortable watching TV or leaving the house and playing golf because at least those things don’t tell me that I could care less about providing for my child and giving them what they want on their birthday.

Again, your personal experience with men may be accurately reflected in the above comment that you wrote…but is what you wrote something that will motivate anyone to change? I believe you have tons of power to say what you need, but the way in which you wrote your comment makes me feel very sad for the men you encounter. They probably feel worthless because your comment seems to reflect that you believe they are…

I can leave you with this hope…

YES! There are “exceptions to your rule.” I know many men who are excellent fathers. Chase and Chasen for starters, and I could begin a nice list if you want.

I don’t believe they are the minority, but their voice may be. And I write this partly as a response to you, but mostly as a response to let them know I believe in them.

p.s. I just ran my response by my own father and he said the below…(and my father’s PhD dissertation was on effective fathering, so he knows a few things.)

“There are seasons in child rearing–don’t restrict your ideas of what parenting should be to your “mothering.” As you said, you breast fed your child. Men don’t have breasts so they can’t participate in this season. You will often be to your children the strongest mother they will ever have. But don’t expect your husband to mother. If you look at the research on fathers, their roles are very vital. In the role of play, discipline, mentoring, etc. If in the early years, if you tell your husband they are in essence a bad parent, how will he be able to step into his vital role in later years?”

Your children will need their father in certain seasons and you as a mother have an important role in making this happen. For it to happen to it’s highest potential, both your children and your husband must believe that you believe he has a role to play.

Even if it’s hard to see right now, (no one is perfect–yourself included) try to see the qualities a man can bring to fathering. You have a lot of power as a mother, and you may be using that power to solidify that your husband feels inadequate.

How will you choose to use your power?

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Chase December 26, 2010 at 11:16 am

Wow, Some wild stuff going on here.

Lisa, thanks for taking the time to write here. I wish you all the best!

Joy, Thanks for your response. Good stuff. Pass along a high-five to your dad for me.

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Lisa December 26, 2010 at 1:54 pm

Joy, you are right, my comments come from a place of resentment. My father was a lousy father, he even took me to a hospital to change my nappies once cause he couldn’t be bother and thought it was a woman’s task. He was also never there and cheated on my mum for years since I was a little girl even though he knew I knew about it. Also my friend’s fathers were not very good, some weren’t present, some were abusive and some were just never there, two of my friends grew up without fathers, actually one of them tried to get her wife committed in front of my two girlfriends, there were 2 and 4. They he disappeared for ever, just crazy stuff ! I know there are some wonderful fathers out there, I’m sure you had one of them and the men in this website are two. Just any man that worries, that try to learn more, that is involved it is wonderful. I just didn’t come across them myself and I am resentful. Especially now that I have a little girl and my husband idea of looking after her is putting the football on the tv and have her play in front of it.
I apology if I offended you, your father, they guys in the website and any other father out there. Even though I wasn’t my intention I might of just done that and I am truly sorry. You are right, as a mother we can make a difference, we are the one that create good future fathers. A lot start with us, I am just resentful I didn’t have a good example to follow, and your email got me thinking, I need to let go of this resentment and become a better mother myself, and I need to start believing on men more.
I thank you so much for you comment, it made me tearful and it made me realize my feelings were very strong inside of me and I need to change them, cause I do want to teach my children to become good parents and I want to be a better one myself. Again I am sorry for offending you and any other man, again it wasn’t my intention, hopefully my reason were understood and definitely your email shone a new light and gave me hope. Thank you

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Joy Eggerichs December 26, 2010 at 2:10 pm

Lisa,

Wow–you have seen a lot.

I can’t tell you how encouraged I am by your response. Your experiences, humility, sensitivity and desire to grow and use your power as a mother for good gives me confidence that you will be an incredible change agent in this life.

Stay passionate and believe the best. Your children will be inspired by you.

Joy

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