What It’s Like Being A Dad

October 21, 2010 in Dad Tips  

What It’s Like Being A Dad

I went to a concert last night. The Weepies. When they played this song I nearly lost it, I nearly spread a puddled mess of sobs and snot right there in the middle of the show. It would have been a safety hazard.

Hearing a song like this, about a father and his young kid, does something to me now. It sets the whole world on my chest, all the beauty and unfairness and potential and hope and life out there spinning around, it sets it all on my chest. It’s heavy. It’s heartache.

My love for my son is heartache. It’s heavy and deep like a rod that goes through me down into the center of the earth. I spin with it. Most of the time it’s the cute stuff… but other times, like when I heard this song, it’s this sorrowful gravity, a pressure, like someone set the world on your chest but didn’t give you an upgraded body to handle it.

That’s what it’s like being a dad. I think you’ll like this:

The Weepies, Be My ThrillThis song is off the album “Hideaway” (Amazon | iTunes). And they have a brand new album called Be My Thrill (Amazon | iTunes) which is really well done.

If you’re a dad, I suspect you understand what this song’s about… and what this gravity-heartache is like. You can’t go back now. Walk on.

Please Comment & Add Your Voice!

Dude, I'm Just Effing Saying October 21, 2010 at 9:20 am

Pass me some tissue {sniff sniff}

This is magical!

Thanx for the post


adriannep June 1, 2012 at 10:15 am


Jim October 21, 2010 at 9:32 am

Your right Chase. You fight for air during that song.

I have Winston who is 6. When Winston was born in in 2004 he spent almost 7 weeks in ICU at Emanuel Hosp. (He was 2 months early) That was hard but not the kind of hard where you lose your breath. I was a new parent just trying to flow . . ..my love was developing or starting its journey to the surface of me where it could be seen and felt.

Today . . .I hear a song like that and I reflect back to those ICU weeks and it crushes the breath right out of me. But it’s the same crush as that (ICU crush feeling) that I feel for him when I think about . . . . when he encounters his first real lingering disappointment in the days ahead in his life. It’s really all the same crushing feeling when you survey all the encounters to come to our kids. I think your writing above tells us that our love for our kids, our child seems to crush us and takes our breath.

Just you writing that makes me a brother to you.



Mellisa October 21, 2010 at 11:07 am

What it’s like being a mom…. feeling like this heavy love might break you. Maybe the sorrow comes from feeling the emptiness of yourself without this child.


Chase October 21, 2010 at 11:12 am

Dear Mellisa,

thank you for commenting on this post. but lets keep it at least 2 levels above the macabre. thanks :)

also, how did you find us. We were hiding from you.

Matthew Reeder October 22, 2010 at 10:37 am

Yes. Yes. Macabre or not, I am constantly shattered by the realization that these two wonderful little human beings will one day be removed from my daily life (I’m a full time Dad.) These thoughts are frequent for me right now, as my oldest just started Kindergarten, and he is already being pulled deeper into the village and farther from the nest.

And Chase? I couldn’t agree with your post any more. Stop stealing my thoughts.

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