All dads are scared and capable

August 23, 2011 in Fatherhood Insights  

All dads are scared of failing as a dad, scared about being on the wrong side of an adolescent who has the right to resent us. And make no bones about it: we’re very capable of ruining our relationships, of acting selfishly for long enough to keep us from connecting in any real way with our kids. But all dads also, at one point or another, feel pangs of that deep love, those real, sincere shots of care and hope for our kids that make us feel like we may be able to do this dad thing well after all.

That’s a snippet from the upcoming book. I don’t think it’s making the final cut, but I thought it important enough to share.

Please Comment & Add Your Voice!

Yuvi August 23, 2011 at 10:27 am

This is great. I’m really looking forward to the book. I also hope you keep teasing us with snippets along the way… ~yuvi

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Chase August 23, 2011 at 11:20 am

Thanks, Yuvi. I appreciate that.

Harley August 23, 2011 at 11:27 am

Wow. Well put.

“This book will be a must-read for any dad who looks in the mirror and says, ‘hey, dummy, wake up — you’re a dad now.'”

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Chase August 23, 2011 at 12:40 pm

Editor’s note: change ‘dummy’ to ‘shit-head jerk-butt’ and I think it’s great.

Metroknow August 23, 2011 at 11:39 am

If this is a cutting room floor passage, all indications are that this book is gonna’ be awesome. Looking forward to it.

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Chase August 23, 2011 at 12:43 pm

Well, don’t get too excited… this is a really good snippet, so I hated pulling it out of the chapter, but it didn’t build on the main point of the chapter so I pulled it. I didn’t pull it because it wasn’t as good as the other stuff I was saying, I pulled it because it didn’t fit as good as the other stuff…

It’s really just a “book-ish” thing. You’ll recognize a lot of the content, but it will all be edited and revised… and there’ll be some new stuff too, like the recipe for The Strong Doctor™.

Anthony StClair August 23, 2011 at 1:27 pm

And we can. We can screw up… but we can make things right. I know I’ll be struggling with that as I become a father (just a few months to go). But I know too it’ll be important for my kids to see that Dad is fallible, Dad doesn’t always get things right—but Dad will always care enough to make things right.

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