Excellent Movie – The Kids Are All Right

February 25, 2011 in Daddy Downtime  

Excellent Movie – The Kids Are All Right

My wife and I just watched this movie The Kids Are All Right and we loved it. It brings up big questions about what it means to be a parent, a dad, a family…

“He’s not a father… He’s a sperm donor!”

The whole thing feels completely fresh… the story, the dialogue, the acting, everything.

It’s funny, we just threw it on to kill some time – thinking we’d just fall asleep to something light. But half-way through it both of us were wide awake and really interested in what was going on.

It’s a story about a family headed up by a lesbian couple… and the kids end up trying to get in touch with the sperm donor… and they do… and they gotta figure out how to be after that.

There’s a bunch of unique conversations that happen, and a good deal of insightful bits on life that felt fresh; like this one:

“…marriage is hard… Just two people slogging through the shit, year after year, getting older, changing. It’s a fucking marathon, okay? So, sometimes, you know, you’re together for so long, that you just… You stop seeing the other person. You just see weird projections of your own junk. Instead of talking to each other, you go off the rails and act grubby and make stupid choices… You know if I read more Russian novels, then…”

So, my vote is: check out the movie The Kids Are All Right, it’s a great way to kill some time. Have you seen this movie? What’d you think?

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Alan February 26, 2011 at 5:06 am

We watched this flick a couple of months ago and liked it as well, much more for the performances and some of the observations — like the marriage rant above — than the storyline, which we found to be a little bit of a shambles.

Which isn’t exactly unlike life. So maybe I should revisit.

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Jill/Twipply Skwood February 27, 2011 at 5:44 am

I started watching it, but I stopped in the middle because of the cheating scene. I mean, I know they’re lesbians and everything (as opposed to the usual cheating heterosexuals. Although, I guess since she was cheating with a man, that would really be more of a cheating bisexual) but still, I don’t like movies in the first place and so when it comes to stuff that I’m already tired of in real life, why waste my time watching it on TV? I hate all that wondering when and how and if they’re going to get caught at it and when and how and if the other person is going to forgive them.

But then, I’m pretty much a stick in the mud when it comes to movies. I don’t like movies where anyone cheats on anyone, or any movie with a spy in it, and I won’t watch movies OR read books that have a Senator in them. I like dramas with happy endings, but I don’t want to have to suffer through cheating or too much other trauma to get there. If I’m going to spend an hour and half watching something, I usually like to stick to being scared movies (but only with ghosts and the devil and stuff, not gore) or movies about music. Although I did okay with The King’s Speech. I guess that falls under happy ending with not too much trauma in between.

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Chase February 28, 2011 at 1:39 pm

AH AH AHA HA A HA!!! I *so* hope this is a joke… :)

Jill/Twipply Skwood February 27, 2011 at 5:46 am

Ok, I’m confused about my comment posting or not posting…I didn’t see an approval thing…so here it is again I guess? Or still? Or for the first time?

I started watching it, but I stopped in the middle because of the cheating scene. I mean, I know they’re lesbians and everything (as opposed to the usual cheating heterosexuals. Although, I guess since she was cheating with a man, that would really be more of a cheating bisexual) but still, I don’t like movies in the first place and so when it comes to stuff that I’m already tired of in real life, why waste my time watching it on TV? I hate all that wondering when and how and if they’re going to get caught at it and when and how and if the other person is going to forgive them.

But then, I’m pretty much a stick in the mud when it comes to movies. I don’t like movies where anyone cheats on anyone, or any movie with a spy in it, and I won’t watch movies OR read books that have a Senator in them. I like dramas with happy endings, but I don’t want to have to suffer through cheating or too much other trauma to get there. If I’m going to spend an hour and half watching something, I usually like to stick to being scared movies (but only with ghosts and the devil and stuff, not gore) or movies about music. Although I did okay with The King’s Speech. I guess that falls under happy ending with not too much trauma in between.

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Jill/Twipply Skwood February 27, 2011 at 6:48 am

Oops! And sorry for the long, rambly chatty double discussion about my personal movie preferences. For some reason, I thought I was on Oren’s Blogger & a Father. Not that HE would care so much about my movie preferences, but at least I’ve known him a few years and he’s used to me!

All the while I was thinking, “Wow, new colors and stuff!” and “Well, maybe if Oren liked it, I should give the movie another chance…”

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BloggerFather February 27, 2011 at 3:45 pm

Ha! I just watched it yesterday! Definitely not enough Senators in the movie for my taste!

Here’s what I think: I loved watching the movie because Annette Bening was so unbelievably good in it. So there’s that.

SPOILERS!!! SPOILERS!!!

Now, as a guy, I didn’t like the way Ruffalo was tossed aside like the minor character that he was. I thought he deserved better. It was like there was a deleted scene of him either committing to growing up or getting back to his old ways.

And then there’s the idea that marriage is a strong commitment that will withstand all obstacles. But is it? Should it in all cases? It’s a partnership, after all, and here we have one partner looking down at the other partner, holding her back and showing no interest in her life and no respect for her as an equal. We have the other woman having sex with a guy a minute after telling him he looks exactly like her kids, which was weird. To be honest, though, we don’t really need to get into Freudian analysis, because no woman, man, or beast can resist Mark Ruffalo.

The thing about the cheating was that I’m not sure it was necessary here. The drama could have been there without the sex and the discovery of hair, you know? Oh, let me add a SPOILER ALERT to the top.

And now I’m going to write this same comment twice, in Jill’s honor!

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Chase February 28, 2011 at 1:42 pm

Indeed! Thanks, I appreciate your thoughts on this…

– There are NOT enough senators… totally agree
– I, too, cannot resist the Rufallo!

just in case:

– There are NOT enough senators… totally agree
– I, too, cannot resist the Rufallo!

:)

Jill/Twipply Skwood February 27, 2011 at 6:20 pm

Bloggerfather – Thanks for salvaging a little of my self respect as a blogger! :-) :-) :-) To miserably attempt to defend myself a little, I’m used to moderated comments giving a little warning about how it will be visible after blog owner approval. Since I didn’t see that, I figured my comment had pretty much been eaten. I don’t really have an excuse for thinking this was your blog…

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Rob Daniel July 16, 2011 at 6:50 pm

Just saw the movie, and I am very unhappy with the way the father (aka sperm donor) was tossed aside. He had become much more than just a donor to this family. It was ridiculous!

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Chase July 17, 2011 at 5:48 pm

I hear you on that. However, I do like that it didn’t feel fairy-taily or too good to be true.

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