The Anvil As Image For Fatherhood

November 3, 2011 in Fatherhood Insights  

Hello FA men, and welcome to the new!

How do you like it?

I’m glad you’re here and wanted to tell you a little about that huge anvil on the homepage. So I fired up the video camera, poured myself a hot toddy and recorded you a little message.

Check it out:

As the video says, I’m so thankful that FA evokes the raw, honest feelings of fathers like Jonathan.

That’s my whole dream for FA: to help dads to get comfortable in their own skin, honest with themselves, and willing to push out and grow from there.

If that sounds like something you’d like to be a part of, please sign up to join father apprentice on the form below — it’s free, you can unsubscribe, and it’s going to get better with age. Give it a try!

Please Comment & Add Your Voice!

ThatGuyKC November 3, 2011 at 10:39 am

Love the concept and imagery of the anvil. As you’ve written before we cannot afford to be selfish as fathers (and husbands).

Keep up the good work.

P.S. I’m a Hanes guy myself.


Chase November 3, 2011 at 10:47 am

Takes all kinds, K.C. Takes all kinds…

Eric November 3, 2011 at 1:15 pm

Yes, the anvil is a superior metaphor.

And it doubles well as the soundtrack of fatherhood when you consider these guys too:

Seriously though, the “selfishness” you mention can be best summed up in a word I like to call “escapism” – when you would rather be anywhere else than being present as a father…

Although I have no scientific evidence, I believe escapism to be a legitimate psychological condition similar to negative and addictive behavior patterns.

But we press on…and focus on how we can turn those selfish tendencies into new energies that can benefit others.

For example, I just recently tore up the deck in our backyard and built a fort for the kids with all of the wood. It stands twelve feet off the ground. It didn’t need to be done – it was totally a “just because” and random event. Totally a dad thing to do, right? Well, let’s just say the kids and neighbors friends heart it very much…

Thus a motto is born: “When in doubt, build a fort!”

It works every time.



Chase November 3, 2011 at 1:28 pm

I like that! Thanks, Eric!

jared November 5, 2011 at 8:34 am

Congrats on re-design! Looks great!

Great reader letter.


Bruce December 26, 2011 at 4:29 pm

What a great blog. My kids have grown and I can truly say that fatherhood as my kids grew up was the highlight of my life. Enjoy it no matter how hard it gets because it goes fast.


Jeff March 3, 2012 at 7:01 am

The anvil make sense! I always feel my wife and daughter are constantly beating the snot out of me! But for the right reasons,its a uphill battle making sure I walk the path of being a responsible husband and father. Thanks for the website!!! Jeff


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