What fatherhood is like at two and a half years

December 19, 2011 in Fatherhood Insights  

What fatherhood is like at two and a half years

I’ve been a dad now for 2.5 years and it seems my son has just started to hit his stride.

In this video I talk a bit about what that looks like and how it effects me as the dad. I also introduce you to my son for the first time for a very important message.

So, gentlemen, what say you? How are things? How long have you been a dad and what is it like right now, right this instant in your life?

Please Comment & Add Your Voice!

ThatGuyKC December 19, 2011 at 11:00 am

Chase, you are the man. The next time you’re in Seattle hit me up and I’ll give you a tour of Starbucks HQ. No lie.

After 6 years in a dad role I think I’m doing okay. I wish I played with my kids more, I wish I didn’t hate school programs (who really wants to listen to 30 kids try to sing for 45 minutes?) and I wish I could get them to eat more vegetables. Overall though I’m doing okay.

Thank you for the encouragement and straight up talk about the joys and challenges of fatherhood.

La Heim.

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Chase December 19, 2011 at 11:06 am

Whoa, you’re in Seattle? Whoa, you can give tours of St. Arbuck’s HQ? Whoa, you’ve been a dad for six years?

Thanks, sir!

Harley December 19, 2011 at 11:15 am

Chase —
SO right. When the kids hit 2.5 (my girls are just past that) it goes to another level. The fact that they start expressing what they want/feel with real words is incredible, and every day you turn around and their vocabulary grows and you’re like “how did you learn THAT word?”

They walk, talk, make you laugh, make you freak out when they eat stuff off the ground, and are generally awesome. I’m about to switch jobs, and I get to have like 12 days at home with them in between. I already know it will be fun, incredible, difficult and great.

I truly understand what you mean when you talk about wishing you could be a better father, because any father worth his salt shares that feeling. I know that every time I get upset by spilled milk (oh, the irony) or don’t run into their room the split second they wake up crying/sick, I feel like the worst dad in the world.

It’s that drive that will keep us on top of our game, and in the end make us good parents.

Best,
Harley

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Chase December 19, 2011 at 11:26 am

Good words, sir!

Harley December 19, 2011 at 11:16 am

Oh, and add FB and Google+ “like” buttons when you can. Want to share your stuff without copying URLs. ;)

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Metroknow December 19, 2011 at 11:47 am

Great video, and you’re right – you’ve got a real Closer on your hands with that little guy. So awesome.

Dad update for me: My son is 7, and my daughter – almost 5. And big surprise – I’m still wishing I was a better Dad in so many ways. But I’m also giving myself a little credit too – While I may not be everything I want to be in some departments with them, I know that my kids are very aware that I am right there with them, so intertwined in every aspect of their life that they have the luxury of taking it all for granted in a very good way. They just know I’m here, and never question that. I’m present in their eyes, even if I wish I was a little more present at times from my perspective.

At this age my whole goal is to build that really strong foundation with them so that they trust me as their ally in their teen years, building our own family culture of loyalty and strength that they look to when they’re having rough times and good. Right now I’m loving the fact that my 4yo loves to bring up the weekend trip where I took them by myself (gave my wife a break at home) to the beach for a Dad’s weekend over the summer. I think I’ve nailed one of those lifelong memory moments for her, and I’m damn proud of that. My son and I connect on drawing and legos, and he gets more fun every day as our interests get closer and closer.

It’s not always smooth sailing, but it is definitely one of those golden periods right now in so many ways. Thanks for reminding me to be aware of it. My big goal as a Dad is simple: Don’t Miss It. And with reminders like that, I’m succeeding. Thanks. Happy Holidays to you sir.

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Chase December 19, 2011 at 2:38 pm

Man, that’s a victory post, sir. Goddam, that feels good to read. Good on ‘ya, Jeremy!

My son may be a closer, but he still doesn’t get any coffee.

JZ December 19, 2011 at 5:36 pm

loved this. Aiden cameo is priceless.

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ryan koral December 19, 2011 at 6:59 pm

great stuff, chase. really appreciate your candidness… and your humor. couldn’t stop laughing w/ my wife during this vid. looking forward to more.

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Matt December 19, 2011 at 9:39 pm

Love the post and Aiden’s cameo. Just now getting into the groove of parenting, Jacob is 15 months and really fun, and we found out #2 is on the way. A great Christmas surprise, but am thinking that I just got used to this, now I will have to flash back to a year ago, and it was hard then. Looking forward to the new experience with two, that what your website, and those that post have showed me. Being a dad is rolling with the punches and constantly striving to do better. Merry Christmas.

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Yuvi December 20, 2011 at 9:30 am

This is great, Chase! Always nice to hear from you on Father Apprentice. I’ve got a 2.5 year old as well and it has really been so great with him lately… then again, every month I keep saying that same thing…

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Eric Burgess December 20, 2011 at 2:38 pm

This video, the way it was shot etc. screaaaaaams Portland, OR.

Ahhhh, now that I got that out of the way… congrats! I too am coming up on 2.5 years with Oliver. Super fun times are coming.

Here’s a post I did last week of him spontaneously breakdancing.
http://fashiondad.com/2011/12/my-son-has-the-making-of-a-b-boy/

Looking forward to more posts of yours.

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Jeremy March 5, 2012 at 6:31 am

Love the videos, the style, and of course great content. Bro, being a father is such a privilege, and it’s awesome to see others get that. My boy is just now two and a half and you’re right, it is getting a lot more fun. They come up with the most random crap but also just want to be with you. There’s advice I got before my boy was born that is Pretty much the only advice I really remember, “Enjoy each stage because they are never going to be the same age twice.” There is an amazing part about each age and it’s good for us to find it and soak it up because it feels that time is accelerating. Keep it up bro, enjoy it for all it’s worth. Love to see other Dad’s taking up the privilege and joy of fathering!

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Jason April 26, 2012 at 9:29 am

Hey Chase,
Dude, you’re the funniest! Great sense of humor and you speak for us all. I think we’ve got a young man at about the same age and I’m battling the same things. Thanks for the post, for I know I’m not alone out there.

Later,

Jason
The Cheeky Daddy

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Chase April 27, 2012 at 7:27 am

Thanks Jason!

Ricky September 12, 2012 at 10:13 pm

I am also a father and a stay at home dad, my son is 2 1/2 years also he is turning 3 in December. Life change for the good. One of the best thing ever happen in my life.

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Raaj Trambadia July 1, 2013 at 11:53 am

Chase,
That was adorable :)

He must be about 4 now – and I bet he’ll surely say “Tell Your Friends” in your next video.

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Denis July 10, 2013 at 11:31 am

Great and funny video! I’ll be a dad in two months, so will keep an eye on new videos. Thanks :)

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