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Past Sunday with my kid was all hangover meds1 and Pixar movies.

Everyone’s got an opinion on TV time and toddlers. Some are more informed than others. Some, like my wife’s, are more opinionee than others.

Whatever your thoughts on the rules of TV for kids, watching movies with my son has become one of my favorite parenting activities. He cuddles up into me, we throw un “Inkredeeyiols™” (The Incredibles) and watch and talk about the movie. continue »

5 Lessons In 5 Years Of Marriage

This Saturday marks the 6th anniversary of my marriage to Mellisa. In the spirit of that, I’d like to post something I wrote last year presenting 5 tips I’ve learned in 5 years of marriage.

Today my wife and I have been married for exactly 5 years. We’ve both changed a lot over that time. From 23 year old idealists to exhausted and hopeful parents of a baby human called Aiden… which was the result of me totally getting it on with Mellisa (BOOM! Score!).

Our marriage has survived these changes and we – seemingly barely, seemingly gloriously, like a 3 legged show pony – live to tell the tales, both good and bad.

I wanted to commemorate this occasion with a short list of tips for marriage, one for each year we’ve survived. This list isn’t going to change your life overnight, but if you follow through these just may save your marriage over the long-haul. So, let’s get started being awesome at marriage: continue »

This book will help you make sense of your situation as “dad.” But you should know: it’s written to be something a guy like me could enjoy reading. I’m not the over involved, over concerned, “make the most of birthing class” kind of guy. I’m the overly self involved, whiney, and immature guy with just enough commitment and hope and moments of love truly experienced to have a chance at not completely fucking this thing up. That’s me — that’s who I wrote this for. Guys like me typically need a friend to push a book like this into our hands and say “read this, asshole.” I wrote this book to put something into your friends’ hands.

That’s a snippet from the upcoming book I’m putting together.

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“From this point on how I am with my son has consequences — my inattention and attention will color his world differently.”

That’s a snippet from the upcoming book I’m putting together.

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This is a great video — well made, funny at parts, and even a little matterful.

I resonate with it. Several years back I found a poem/song thing my dad had written when he was dating my mom. It was so weird to think of him as a person, something other than a “dad.”

I’ve been working hard, writing and editing and putting together a small book to help new dads make the most of fatherhood; the kind of thing that I would love to give to any new dad, and they could read it on the sh!tter. It’s going to be funny, and it will also be matterful. You will like it.

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